With our weather man forecasting rain for Sunday making the patio table unlikely, I was beginning to wonder where we were going to fit 22 people for dinner last night, but I had a plan - we would all fit in even if we needed to use a shoehorn to do it! We moved in the table from the playroom which seats 8 comfortably and extended our regular table to it's fullest which leaves room for 12. I wasn't sure where we'd put the other two, but kids love sitting on the piano bench, so we decided that would work out. We might not have had much elbow room, but it would be close fellowship!
As it turns out, no shoehorn was required. Saturday night a family of 6 canceled because they were just too busy to come. Sunday morning we found out about two more who would not be attending - and by the time all was said and done, we had just 5 guests sitting at our table for supper. Needless to say, we have leftovers. Lots of leftovers.
Ham and bean soup? Coming right up!
Our children were really disappointed that not one other child came to our dinner. They had worked really hard cleaning their rooms and washing all of the outside toys this week. They had big plans to share and play games and show the kids all of their special treasures. Thankfully, they adjusted well and rolled with the change of plans. They made good conversation with the adults and were very helpful.
I think it was a good evening - there was lots of conversation and laughter. Everyone seemed to enjoy the meal. The two ladies graciously helped with the clean-up. We sent home leftovers, and I gave the two ladies who attended each a tassel from my growing tassel tree. All in all it was a fun evening, but a big effort for such a small group.
So, what are we doing wrong? This happens so often - we think we have a certain number planning to attend, and often we have about half actually show up. This time, way less than half. It is a bit discouraging. We are not going to give up exercising Biblical hospitality, but I really wonder if we need to do something differently. I'm open to suggestions, and we will be praying for wisdom in this area.
Is this something that you struggle with as well? When you open your home, do folks cancel at the last minute or just not show up? Are people really only committed until something better comes along? I'm just wondering.